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Valentine’s Day is this coming Friday. Ugh. I mean, aaaaawwwww. It’s really the co-opting of this “Hallmark holiday” by chocolatiers, florists, and, well, Hallmark, that bums me out. But really, I am all about love. 

Friday is really a great day for Valentine’s since the planet Venus rules Friday and is also representative of all things love and lovely. 

This Valentine’s Day I want to encourage us all to consider ways we can love ourselves well. My intention is to do something this Friday, and perhaps even every Friday that is a demonstration of my commitment to loving well, starting with myself. 

Here are a few ideas: 

Embodiment: whether this is dance, yoga, running, hiking, making love, tai chi, cycling, bathing, swimming or climbing, connection with our bodies is a key to vitality. 

Nourishment: thoughtful preparation and healthy meals is a way that we can be good caregivers for ourselves long-term. I recently kicked dairy out of my life and I’ve gotta say I feel better. 

Boundaries: figuring out what does and does not work for you in your relationships and asserting your needs is everything. Some people will honor and respect your desires. Others will disregard your requests and call you selfish for having needs. It’s so important to know your bottom line, and to be able to stick to it when the going gets rough. 

Learning: if you aren’t growing, you’re going (to die sad and alone). Kidding, of course. But really, keeping your mind active by taking in new information, new perspectives and gaining new experiences is what makes life rich and meaningful

Create: find some way to use the power of your imagination. Play and spontinaiety naturally arise when we are deeply rooted in the present and we clear a space in our otherwise cluttered mental space. 


By no means is this list exhaustive, but it is a start. Loving yourself is a practice. And the more love you can generate within, the more you’ll have to give to the beings that populate your life. 

Happy Valentine’s  

– xo