Self awareness is not something we are born with. We all come into the world in a fairly narcissistic way: we have a ton of needs and we are entirely dependent on others to help us meet them. As we grow into children, tweens and teenagers, we become painfully aware of our own existence. The way in which we might be perceived by others often hits us with some force when we experience rejection, criticism, and a rapidly shifting body image.
As adults, we may or may not find value in self-awareness, depending on the culture to which we are exposed, the values of our families of origin, and what we are exposed to ideologically.
My Story: Improving Self Awareness Using Trial By Fire
When I moved from Boca Raton to Santa Cruz in my mid twenties I had a serious culture shock. The culture in California, where people often go to great lengths to protect the environment, be kind to one another, and generally behave in ways that I was unaccustomed to was a shock to my system. I had never taken account of who I was and how my presence impacted those around me. (*I moved out to California for graduate studies in holistic psychology, so my experience may differ from others’ experiences.)
During the course of my six years in the Bay area, I earned a graduate degree in holistic psychology and I learned a whole lot about the value of gaining self-awareness.
Once I was able to see how my thoughts and feelings were impacting me and my behavior, and then how that behavior affected those around me, thus affecting the relationships I was creating – phew! I was stunned!
I knew it was time for change.
What transpired over the next several years included some deep soul-searching. Psychotherapy, starting up a yoga practice, trying out meditation and even going on my first Native American Vision Quest. I took a serious inventory and decided it was time to switch some shit up. Dramatically.
It has been fifteen years since then and I have since created a life I love! I have been practicing one-on-one psychotherapy with individuals then and am now excited to be offering my first online class in improving self awareness. This class is a great opportunity to learn skills and get clarity about who you are, what is important to you in your life right now, and how you can move forward in a way that is intentional and meaningful, and that brings you joy and fulfillment.
Reclaiming The Self Course
I know what you are thinking: “but Rachael, is this the right course for me?” That is an excellent question.
Here are some questions to consider – if you answer “yes” to all or most of these, then this is indeed the class for you:
- Are you unhappy with who you are when you are alone?
- Do you lack a sense of inner peace as you move through the world?
- Are you cultivating relationships that make you feel drained, powerless, or otherwise overwhelmed?
- Are you feeling a deep sense of guilt for something that happened long ago?
- Do you feel that you can not trust yourself?